EMOTIONAL SELF-CARE

  • Recognizing emotions improves health (Vitality) and personal insight (Inquiry).

  • Managing emotional overload protects well-being (Vitality) and requires ongoing attention (Perseverance).

  • Seeking support builds community (Interconnectedness) and resilience (Vitality).

TABLE OF CONTENTs - EMOTIONAL SELF-CARE

  • REFLECT

    • Self-Reflection Questions

  • EXPLORE

    • Core Principles and Concepts

  • EXAMINE - Emotional Awareness

    • Supporting Principles and Concepts

  • EXAMINE - Processing and Burnout

    • Supporting Principles and Concepts

  • EXAMINE - Connections and Help

    • Supporting Principles and Concepts

  • EMPOWER

    • Discussing and Considering New Perspectives and Ideas

  • ENGAGE

    • Engaging New Ideas and Applying Them in Daily Life

REFLECT

Self-reflection is a powerful tool to increase self-awareness, prepare mentally and emotionally to engage new ideas, and connect this lesson to principles in your own life!

As you begin to think about your own emotional self care, ask yourself the following questions.

  • When I feel strong emotions, how do I respond? Do I process them or try to push them aside?

  • What situations in college or athletics create the strongest emotional reactions for me?

  • Who do I trust to talk to when I need support with my emotions?

EXPLORE

Exploration sparks curiosity and builds emotional and practical connections to new ideas!

Emotions are a natural part of being human. As a student-athlete, you experience a wide range of emotions every day, from the excitement of competition to the frustration of setbacks. Emotional self-care is about learning how to recognize, understand, and manage these emotions so they do not overwhelm you or interfere with your goals.

The first step in emotional self-care is being aware of how you are feeling. It is easy to push emotions aside when you are busy or focused on performing well. But ignoring feelings often leads to them building up over time. Paying attention to your emotions helps you catch frustration, sadness, or anger early, before they grow into larger problems that affect your focus or relationships.

Expressing emotions in healthy ways is an important skill. Bottling everything inside can make you feel isolated or cause emotional outbursts at the wrong time. Finding safe outlets, like talking with a trusted friend, writing in a journal, or speaking with a counselor, allows you to process emotions without letting them control your behavior.

Sometimes emotions can feel overwhelming, especially when you are dealing with personal struggles, academic pressure, or athletic performance. During these moments, it helps to remind yourself that emotions are temporary. While a bad day can feel heavy in the moment, it does not define your entire experience. Learning to sit with emotions, without being controlled by them, builds resilience over time.

Emotional self-care also includes building habits that protect your well-being. This might include practicing gratitude, spending time with people who lift you up, or engaging in activities that bring you joy outside of school and competition. These small actions help create emotional balance and make it easier to handle tough moments when they arise.

Building strong emotional connections with others provides additional support. Having teammates, coaches, friends, or family members you can trust allows you to share your experiences and gain perspective. These relationships remind you that you are not facing challenges alone and that others care about your well-being.

Managing emotional triggers is another part of self-care. Certain situations or people may consistently cause strong emotional reactions. Learning to recognize these triggers allows you to prepare for them and develop strategies to respond calmly, rather than reacting impulsively in the heat of the moment.

Maintaining emotional balance also helps you respond to setbacks in a healthier way. In competition and academics, not every outcome will go your way. Developing the ability to accept disappointment, learn from mistakes, and move forward without letting emotions take over allows you to keep growing despite challenges.

Emotional self-care does not mean avoiding difficult feelings. It means giving yourself permission to feel, while also learning how to respond thoughtfully. Over time, these habits help you stay grounded, even when life feels uncertain or stressful.

In the end, emotional self-care is an ongoing practice. The better you become at managing your emotions, the stronger your relationships, performance, and overall well-being will be. Investing in emotional self-care now gives you tools that will support you far beyond your college years.

EXAMINE - Emotional Awareness

Emotional awareness is the ability to recognize and name what you are feeling. It allows you to take control of your emotions rather than letting them control you.

  • Emotions are part of every decision, interaction, and performance. Noticing your emotions early helps you stay calm and focused under pressure.

  • Naming your emotions gives you power over them. Saying, "I feel frustrated" or "I feel nervous" helps you process instead of react impulsively.

  • Emotional awareness includes noticing both positive and negative feelings. Acknowledging joy, pride, and excitement builds emotional balance.

  • Avoiding your emotions may feel easier in the moment, but it often creates bigger challenges later. Facing them allows you to handle situations more effectively.

  • Your body often gives physical clues to your emotions. Tension, restlessness, fatigue, or rapid breathing can all signal rising emotions.

  • Journaling can help you identify emotional patterns. Writing down your experiences helps you see what situations trigger certain feelings.

  • Practicing mindfulness or breathing exercises builds emotional awareness. These tools help you slow down and focus on what you are experiencing.

  • Emotional awareness is not about perfection. It is about staying honest with yourself and learning how your emotions affect your decisions.

  • Recognizing emotional patterns helps you prepare for challenging situations. You learn to expect emotional waves and plan healthy ways to manage them.

  • Building emotional awareness takes practice, but over time, it helps you become more stable and confident in both high and low moments.

EXAMINE - Processing and Burnout

Processing emotions helps you release tension and prevent burnout. When emotions pile up without being addressed, they can drain your energy and motivation.

  • Processing emotions means allowing yourself to feel, understand, and release them. Suppressing emotions creates long-term stress that can impact your health.

  • Burnout happens when emotional, mental, and physical stress build up without proper recovery. It leaves you feeling drained, irritable, and disconnected from your goals.

  • Talking to someone you trust is one of the most effective ways to process emotions. Verbalizing your feelings helps you organize your thoughts and gain perspective.

  • Physical activity, like light exercise or stretching, can help release emotional tension. Movement helps your body and mind work together to regulate emotions.

  • Creative outlets, such as music, art, or journaling, allow you to express emotions in ways that feel safe and personal.

  • Avoid turning to unhealthy coping strategies, like isolation, substance use, or anger. These only delay healing and often make problems worse.

  • Recognize when you are carrying too much emotional weight. Take small breaks or step back when you feel overwhelmed before stress turns into burnout.

  • Sleep plays a key role in emotional processing. Rest allows your brain to sort through experiences and emotions, helping you feel more balanced.

  • Burnout can affect your academics, athletics, and relationships. Recognizing early warning signs allows you to make adjustments before reaching a breaking point.

  • Processing emotions regularly keeps you balanced and resilient. When you manage emotions in small doses, you protect yourself from emotional overload.

EXAMINE - Connections and Help

Strong emotional health depends on having connections with others who offer support, encouragement, and perspective. You do not have to carry every emotional burden alone.

  • Trusted relationships give you a place to talk honestly about your feelings. Sharing emotions reduces their weight and helps you find clarity.

  • Teammates, coaches, counselors, family, and friends can all provide different kinds of support. Each connection offers a different way to help you process emotions.

  • Asking for help shows strength and maturity. It means you recognize your limits and are willing to accept support when you need it.

  • Peer support within your team can strengthen both individuals and the whole group. Checking in with teammates helps everyone feel seen and valued.

  • Campus resources like counseling services, academic advisors, and support groups offer professional guidance when emotions become overwhelming.

  • Staying connected to others during difficult times helps prevent isolation. Isolation often makes emotional struggles feel heavier and more permanent.

  • Listening to others builds your own emotional strength. Supporting teammates builds trust and creates a stronger team culture.

  • Relationships require ongoing care and communication. Investing in your connections gives you a strong emotional safety net during stressful periods.

  • Be honest when you feel like you need additional help. Counselors and trained professionals can offer tools to help you build long-term emotional resilience.

  • Emotional self-care is not something you have to figure out alone. Building strong connections allows you to share the load and grow stronger together.

ENGAGE

Now that you have reviewed all of the lesson content, it’s time to see how new perspectives work in your daily life!

Either in a journal or notebook of your own choosing, or on a document provided to you, write short but thoughtful responses to the following questions. Your responses will not be collected or graded. Be open and honest with yourself as you consider each of the questions.

Then find 1 Program Director, Coach, Assistant Coach, Team Manager, or Team Captain. Find a time to speak with them briefly, but with minimal distractions. Ask them about their perspectives and ideas based on the following questions. Write down responses to the best of your ability!

You’ll be asked to participate in a short discussion about what you have learned, either individually or in a group, with a REBOOT Coach. The REBOOT Coach will discuss the following questions with you, and discuss the impact of these concepts in your daily life.

ASK YOURSELF :

  • [Emotional Awareness]

    • What emotions do you tend to feel most often during a typical week? Are they short-term or long-term? How easily can you identify and name your emotions in the moment?

  • [Processing and Burnout]

    • Have you ever experienced emotional burnout or a time when you felt emotionally drained? What caused it and what helped you recover?

  • [Connections and Help]

    • How comfortable are you expressing your emotions to people close to you? What kind of emotional support do you value most from others?

ASK OTHERS :

  • [Emotional Awareness]

    • How do you talk to student-athletes about recognizing and naming their emotions, especially during stressful or intense moments?

  • [Processing and Burnout]

    • What signs do you look for when someone might be emotionally burned out, and how do you help them work through it?

  • [Connections and Help]

    • How do you foster emotionally supportive relationships within the team or program, and what role do you play in helping others feel safe to open up?

EMOTIONAL SELF-CARE

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