Personal Balance

  • Personal growth enhances purpose (Vitality) and critical self-reflection (Inquiry).

  • Adjusting boundaries supports relationships (Interconnectedness) and emotional endurance (Perseverance).

  • Building good habits improves wellness (Vitality) and requires consistency (Perseverance).

TABLE OF CONTENTs - Personal Balance

  • REFLECT

    • Self-Reflection Questions

  • EXPLORE

    • Core Principles and Concepts

  • EXAMINE - Identity and Growth

    • Supporting Principles and Concepts

  • EXAMINE - Evolving Boundaries

    • Supporting Principles and Concepts

  • EXAMINE - Healthy Habits

    • Supporting Principles and Concepts

  • EMPOWER

    • Discussing and Considering New Perspectives and Ideas

  • ENGAGE

    • Engaging New Ideas and Applying Them in Daily Life

REFLECT

Self-reflection is a powerful tool to increase self-awareness, prepare mentally and emotionally to engage new ideas, and connect this lesson to principles in your own life!

As you begin to think about balance in your own personal life, ask yourself the following questions.

  • How do I currently balance my personal identity, my academic work, and my athletic goals?

  • In what ways has my identity started to change since beginning college and joining my team?

  • How do I recognize when I am taking on too much and need to set or adjust personal boundaries?

EXPLORE

Exploration sparks curiosity and builds emotional and practical connections to new ideas!

Personal balance is about finding a healthy rhythm in your life that allows you to succeed while also taking care of yourself. As a student-athlete, you are pulled in many directions with school, commitments, work, family, and friends all competing for your attention. Without balance, it is easy to feel overwhelmed, exhausted, or burned out. Learning how to manage all parts of your life helps you stay healthy, focused, and prepared to meet your goals.

One of the first steps toward personal balance is recognizing your limits. You cannot do everything at once, and trying to do so often leads to stress and frustration. Learning to prioritize your time and energy allows you to focus on what matters most each day. Some days you may need to give more attention to academics, while others may require extra focus on your family or personal needs.

Setting boundaries helps protect your personal balance. This means learning when to say no to activities that do not fit your schedule or that take away from your priorities. Boundaries allow you to protect your time for rest, study, training, and personal well-being. Respecting your own boundaries teaches others to respect them as well.

Personal balance also involves making time for relationships. Friends, family, teammates, and mentors provide support and encouragement. Spending time with people who uplift you helps you recharge and stay connected. These relationships give you a sense of belonging and can make stressful times feel more manageable.

Taking care of your physical health plays a role in personal balance too. Regular sleep, nutritious meals, hydration, and exercise outside of practice help you maintain the energy needed to handle your daily responsibilities. When you neglect your physical health, your mental focus and emotional stability can suffer as well.

Mental and emotional self-care are equally important. Making time for activities that relax your mind, like listening to music, reading, or spending time outdoors, helps reduce stress. These small breaks give your mind a chance to reset and help you return to your responsibilities with better focus and energy.

Balance also requires flexibility. Your schedule will change throughout the semester, and unexpected situations will arise. Being able to adjust your plans while staying focused on your priorities helps you stay in control even when life feels unpredictable. Flexibility allows you to handle changes without feeling overwhelmed.

Checking in with yourself regularly can help maintain personal balance. Take time to reflect on how you are feeling, what is going well, and where you may need to make adjustments. Honest self-reflection allows you to catch problems early and stay on track before small issues become larger ones.

Seeking support when you need it is a key part of personal balance. Whether you turn to a coach, counselor, advisor, or trusted friend, reaching out for guidance shows responsibility. You do not have to carry every burden alone. Using the resources available to you helps you stay balanced and focused.

In the end, personal balance is not about being perfect or having every part of your life perfectly organized. It is about creating steady habits that help you manage your responsibilities while also protecting your well-being. When you develop personal balance, you set yourself up for long-term success both in college and beyond.

EXAMINE - Identity and Growth

Your identity is not fixed. As you grow, you are continually shaping who you are, what you value, and how you balance the roles you play in college and beyond.

  • College is a season of personal discovery. You will learn more about yourself by experiencing new situations, successes, and setbacks.

  • Identity is built through your choices. Each decision you make reflects the person you are becoming, not just who you used to be.

  • Balancing academics, athletics, and relationships forces you to think about your values. Knowing what matters most to you helps you prioritize your time and energy.

  • Growth includes both confidence and humility. You learn from both your strengths and your mistakes, and both experiences help shape your character.

  • You are allowed to evolve over time. The version of yourself you bring to college will not be the same as the version you take into your career and adult life.

  • Seeking new experiences helps you explore different aspects of your identity. Trying new things gives you more information about your interests and goals.

  • Identity also involves understanding your weaknesses. Acknowledging areas you need to grow helps you become more well-rounded and prepared for future challenges.

  • Positive self-talk supports your identity as a learner and competitor. Encouraging yourself builds confidence and mental stability.

  • Personal growth requires patience. Significant change happens slowly, through small, repeated actions over time.

  • You are not only becoming a better athlete or student in your growth. You are developing into a responsible, capable adult who can lead, serve, and succeed in many areas of life.

EXAMINE - Evolving Boundaries

Boundaries protect your time, energy, and well-being. As your responsibilities grow, setting and adjusting boundaries helps you stay focused and avoid burnout.

  • Healthy boundaries allow you to say yes to the right things and no to distractions. Protecting your time ensures you stay committed to your priorities.

  • Without boundaries, small obligations can quickly overwhelm your schedule. Learning to limit unnecessary commitments helps you stay balanced.

  • Boundaries include how much time you give to social life, extracurriculars, or part-time jobs. Managing these areas helps you leave room for academic and athletic success.

  • Emotional boundaries protect your mental space. Learning to limit negativity or drama helps you focus on your own growth and well-being.

  • Physical boundaries include rest, nutrition, and sleep. Respecting your body’s need for recovery helps prevent both physical and emotional exhaustion.

  • Boundaries also apply to technology. Limiting screen time allows you to stay more present and reduces distractions during study, rest, or recovery.

  • Communicating your boundaries helps others respect them. Explaining your schedule or limits shows responsibility, not selfishness.

  • Setting boundaries with teammates or peers can protect your focus. Being clear about when you need quiet or personal space allows you to recharge fully.

  • Adjusting boundaries is a normal part of growth. As your workload or responsibilities shift, reassessing your limits keeps you balanced.

  • Boundaries create long-term success by protecting you from stretching yourself too thin. Healthy limits allow you to give your best where it matters most.

EXAMINE - Healthy Habits

Healthy habits create stability and balance in the middle of demanding schedules. Building strong routines allows you to stay physically and emotionally prepared for daily challenges.

  • Sleep is one of the most important habits for personal balance. Consistent, quality rest helps restore your body, sharpen your mind, and regulate your emotions.

  • Nutrition fuels your performance in both academics and athletics. Balanced meals provide lasting energy and help prevent crashes that affect focus.

  • Movement and exercise support both physical and emotional stability. Even outside of practice, regular physical activity helps reduce stress and boost mood.

  • Daily planning keeps you organized. Using a planner or calendar helps prevent last-minute stress and keeps important tasks on schedule.

  • Scheduled downtime allows your mind to recharge. Quiet moments for reading, relaxation, or hobbies protect your mental health during busy weeks.

  • Reflection strengthens personal awareness. Taking time to evaluate your progress and adjust your habits keeps you focused and resilient.

  • Consistent routines help reduce decision fatigue. Knowing when and how you complete tasks leaves more energy for academic and athletic performance.

  • Avoiding overcommitment protects your balance. Choosing your responsibilities wisely allows you to maintain high standards across all areas.

  • Building strong morning and evening routines stabilizes your daily rhythm. Predictable routines support better sleep, focus, and emotional consistency.

  • Small habits compound into major benefits. Repeating small healthy actions daily leads to long-term personal balance and future success.

ENGAGE

Now that you have reviewed all of the lesson content, it’s time to see how new perspectives work in your daily life!

Either in a journal or notebook of your own choosing, or on a document provided to you, write short but thoughtful responses to the following questions. Your responses will not be collected or graded. Be open and honest with yourself as you consider each of the questions.

Then find 1 Program Director, Coach, Assistant Coach, Team Manager, or Team Captain. Find a time to speak with them briefly, but with minimal distractions. Ask them about their perspectives and ideas based on the following questions. Write down responses to the best of your ability!

You’ll be asked to participate in a short discussion about what you have learned, either individually or in a group, with a REBOOT Coach. The REBOOT Coach will discuss the following questions with you, and discuss the impact of these concepts in your daily life.

ASK YOURSELF :

  • [Identity and Growth]

    • How have you changed over the past year; academically, socially, or emotionally? What part of that growth are you most proud of, and how does it shape your current sense of identity?

  • [Evolving Boundaries]

    • What personal boundaries have become more important to you lately (like time, privacy, or relationships)? How do you protect those boundaries while still staying connected with others?

  • [Healthy Habits]

    • What daily habits help you feel more balanced, focused, or at peace? Are there any habits you’ve been wanting to build or break to support your personal well-being?

ASK OTHERS :

  • [Identity and Growth]

    • How do you support students in discovering who they are outside of their preferred game or role and how do you talk about personal growth as a part of success?

  • [Evolving Boundaries]

    • How do you help student-athletes navigate changing boundaries with friends, family, or teammates as they grow and mature?

  • [Healthy Habits]

    • What healthy habits do you recommend to help students stay grounded and maintain personal balance throughout the semester or season?

Personal Balance

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